Anger is a spectrum and we all experience this somewhere along that spectrum from time to time, ranging from minor irritation to intense and extreme rage. Learning how to identify the things that trigger anger at the more extreme level and developing strategies to productively direct our feelings is key to maintaining positive relationships with others and with ourselves.
The main goals for anger management therapy are to be able to identify the triggers and building tools and strategies to calm and manage that anger as quickly as possible. If you experience anger that is extreme or intense and that comes out in uncontrolled ways, it can result in many difficulties in daily life, such as:
- Domestic and family conflict
- Depression and anxiety
- Trouble with the law
- Low self esteem
If it continues untreated the cost in your life can be extremely high. From losing your job to the breakdown of your relationship with family and friends. But it can also take an extreme toll on your own physical and emotional wellbeing.
Different Types of Anger
Anger falls into many different categories. It’s helpful for you to consider which one (s) might apply to you. At Eucalyptus Psychology, your psychologist will work with you to help you determine where you fit on the spectrum and to help you chart a course of action. Some of the categories of anger are:
- Overwhelmed Anger: This usually occurs when we feel that many things are out of our control and the resulting frustration can lead to anger.
- Retaliatory Anger: This is a very common type of anger that arises from a sense that we have been wronged by someone and we then seek revenge for that wrong, instead of aiming to defuse the situation.
- Volatile Anger: On the surface, volatile anger appears to rise out of nowhere, but there is always a trigger. This is a very impulsive type of anger that can quickly escalate to verbal or violent outbursts.
- Self Abusive Anger: This can quickly lead to being isolated and withdrawn. It is based on feelings of unworthiness and shame and can lead to striking out at those you are close to.
Counselling and Therapeutic Approach
There are a range of treatment options for anger management which include the use of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), mindfulness, acceptance and commitment therapy, and emotion focussed therapies. Your psychologist will work with you to determine the most appropriate form of treatment for your needs and will work with you to create strategies to help you manage your anger and live a happier and more productive life.